How to Approach a Girl You Don't Know

No Girl/Guy Is Ever Too Hot

If your the type of guy who likes to approach the hottest girl in the group chances are your going to face rejection after rejection after rejection until you finally concoct a surefire way to get the type of girl you want. Same goes for girls except less words most of the time for girls it’s just a look and if the guy isn’t a complete idiot he’ll talk to you.

It’s really easy to approach a guy/girl who you know your going to like and have something in common with. If your the type that likes to stay in your comfort zone then I don’t blame you life is less stressful that way I guess. Just remember you might miss-out on something wonderful.

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Stuttering, blushing, sweating and avoiding eye contact. Not knowing what to say can be a hassle for someone who is shy around other people. Granted some women find it cute, I was called cute a lot in Jr. High but that was years ago. Most women want someone strong in their convictions and not afraid to say whats on their mind someone who gets things done. Sadly that doesn’t fit in the “shy guy” category. The cause of shyness is lack of self-esteem and confidence. This results in lack of social graces needed for mixing with people.

Those who are crippled by this condition need to build up valuable attitudes and practice appropriate behavior. I know a lot of functional shy people who are able to have conversations and mingle have women all over them but hey are still shy about many things. Such as showing affection in public the tone of their voice is always very low they are constantly fidgeting. These people are inherently shy but they grew out of most of the hindrances early on.

Make a move

Okay you’ve read this far. Now it’s time for me to school you on making a move. It’s really as simple saying hi/hello say either on of those words an your foot is in the door. Now just strike up a conversation you don’t have to be super witty or Steven Hawking or anything like that. What will impress someone is your own creativity,confidence and easy going demeanor. As long as your not making fart noises and saying profanity left and right you should be okay.

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Your Not the Only Shy Person

You must realize that girls are equally or sometimes more shy than you are and vice versa. Sometimes by admitting your nervousness to the person you approach and being honest about your situation can actually open that person up to a more honest exchange. Then since you are shy, you can empathize with the girl/guy and can behave in appropriate ways to put her at ease. This could be the start of a beautiful friendship.

Build Your Confidence

You must build your self-confidence – believe that you are worthy and have positive qualities. You can not feel inferior physically or mentally. If you have a good sense of humor and are intelligent enough to hold a decent conversation in order to keep yourself interesting enough to let your other qualities shine through, you’ve won half the battle. A five minute conversation is a breeze if your confident in what you have to say.

Dress Confident

Okay this maybe a small issue for shy people try not to “dress shy”. Shy people tend to “dress boring” you don’t have to keep yourself in a box try some new things stop dressing in ways that make you blend in with wallpaper. When you dress yourself try to be confident in something about your body. For women This doesn’t mean cleavage or a slit in your skirt. You can wear a dress that accentuates your curves shows off your beautiful legs etc.  Don’t discard your old stuff just buy new things and gradually replace your old wardrobe as you begin to break away from the hindrances of shyness  you notice a lot more changes around you.

Look Confident

first step is the look if you look confident even when your not feeling so confident at least you’ll be able to approach the guy/girl easier. The thing about shyness is the other person can’t see it. The guy/girl you want to talk to has no idea you are shy unless they know you already or you have mutual friends. If that’s the case there’s no use in changing who you are for five minutes just go talk to him/her. If you are around strangers you can walk into a room without people realizing that you are the bashful type. This makes it very easy to just go with the flow and mask your shyness with confidence. Start confidently and then you will be caught in its flow.

Don’t Fear Rejection

A shy person will always dwell on rejection it’s a shy persons number one fear. But how will you know until you try?  Rejection is a part of life, it’s as simple as NO if your lucky that’s all you’ll get.  You can get unlucky and face a woman’s demoralizing shout it’s not pretty. The best way to go about asking a woman out is not to care about it at all. To be honest the more beautiful the woman is the harder it gets not to care when you first start but practice makes perfect. Not caring about rejection makes it easier to talk to and date women. Think of it this way rejection is gods way of telling you “your not ready yet”, “shes not for you”, “maybe you should work a little harder at it”, “slow your roll”. However you choose to look at the silver lining is up to you. Just don’t let rejection get in the way of your own happiness!.

Some of you girls are having problems when you want to approach guys you don’t know. There is one thing that hinders you from doing such. Do you know what it is called? It is the fear of unknown or what medical people call as Anxiety. This strange feeling is pulling us back from doing what we should have done without thinking twice, thrice, or more. There is a fine line between being shy and a guy thinking your anti-social.

Why does your anxiety rises when you want to approach guys you just saw at the moment for the first time? There are a lot of reasons actually. One, you are a shy type. Two, you are thinking that this guy might be a little bit of snob, or too cute for him to talk to someone like you. Three, you might be very much concerned with your appearance and that it is too embarrassing to approach him especially if he is with some friends. These are few main reasons to tell.

With these reasons and what if’s are the purpose of your approach. You would not be this anxious if you just need to ask for a location of a store or if you want to ask for a direction. Those are too simple for your anxieties to build up. If your purpose is to know him because you want to become friends later, that will really make your brain with “What if..?”

If you really want to know that guy, or even just say “Hi!,” there are many ways for you to do that successfully. If you will it, you can do it. You must be motivated. Gather all the motivation you can. That might be kind of tough for shy types but it must be done to alleviate that anxiety of yours and talk to that guy.

Here’s what you are going to do.

#1           Dress up comfortably nice and simple every day. Most girls tend to lose their self-confidence because they think that they do not look pleasant to the eyes. Well, you don’t have to wear daring and sexy clothes. Not all guys are pleased with those kinds of girls. The simpler you look, the simpler it is to approach anyone. Hence, confidence level is up!

#2           Stop thinking too much. Girls are really known for this, the second hindrance. This will not help you, so get rid of those doubts and negativistic mind. Think of your purpose. Empower your vibes. Tell yourself you can do it for several times and you will!

#3           Go for the goal. You have raised your confidence and you have eradicated the doubts of yours. You are now ready to face the guy. Take it nice and easy. Focus on him and to what you are talking about. Always put a smile on your face and bring out all the niceness in you.